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Recently, a friend told me about a writeup she read written by someone who had their mouth wired shut in order to lose weight. I couldn’t believe any of what my friend told me was true… Until she shared the link.
In this writeup, the author chronicles how she just “can’t stop eating” and claims that she’s “too lazy/overweight to exercise.” Thus she looked up a website for a dentist who wires mouths shut (and then details how she paid for the procedure with credit that she applied for online).
While I appreciate the writer’s honesty and candor, I have to question her reasoning.
It seems to me that wiring your mouth shut will never work for permanent, healthy weight loss given that it doesn’t address the real issue of wanting/needing to lose weight. Too often we try to cure our life’s weight loss struggle through surgery (gastric bypass for the stomach) or mouth (wiring jaws shut) when, in reality, the real issues are in our head.
The mind (and our thinking) is the place we need to investigate. The place we need to spend time. The place we need to heal.
Sure, the writer of this piece who had her mouth wired shut promises that she will exercise and work to maintain the weight loss once she’s reached her goal of fitting into a size 10 dress. But what about learning sane and healthy eating habits? Too often when we go to extremes (like being “on” or “off” a diet — to say nothing of wiring one’s mouth shut), we are setting ourselves up for failure. To truly attain and maintain a healthy weight, we need a life long plan — not a temporary one.
There’s a reason we label something like wiring your mouth shut for dieting purposes as “Extreme.” That’s because extreme is exactly what these kind of things are.
Am I being too harsh? Am I not seeing something in the author’s prose? Is this something some of you would even remotely consider? I promise to keep my mouth closed (sans wires) if you’ll be kind enough to share your opinion.
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Today’s Rockstar Dieting Tip has to do with appearance. As dieters, we’re too often focused on what we’ll look like after we’ve taken off all the excess weight we want to get rid of. When actually it’s just as important for us to do everything we can to look good at this moment — no matter how much we currently weigh.
Rockstar Dieting Tip #3 — Stop Wearing Baggy Clothing
When dieting, we tend to wear very loose clothing, thinking it masks our layers of blubber — when actually the loose clothes make us look like we’re walking around in a circus tent. It’s not attractive and leaves us feeling lousy about our appearance. No matter how much you weight now — and no matter how much you want to lose — go out and buy some fitted, attractive, snugly comfortable clothes and start wearing them when out on the town. There’s nothing wrong with embracing your shape as it is today, in this very moment. The self-esteem you gain from looking good will ultimately help you take the unwanted excess weight off once and for all. The better we feel about ourselves, the more we’ll care about making positive changes.
As overweight people, we’ve been taught to wear loose-fitting clothing. But at the end of the day, it’s really not doing us any favors and these clothes are actually making us look bigger than we really are.
When I weighed over 450 pounds, I used to wear the biggest shirts I could find (thinking that if they looked “loose” it would come off as more attractive). And I almost never wore “real” pants — instead donning sweat-style pants that didn’t have any kind of waist. Not only was this not an attractive look, it also left me unaware of what my body felt like in real clothes, thus giving me a false perception of what it feels like to wear snug or fitting clothing. And let’s face it, when clothes are more fitted, we’re reminded of the girth we want to lose. And that extra motivation doesn’t hurt.
Feeling good about yourself (even at your current weight) is only going to lead to caring more about yourself and, therefore, caring enough to take steps to ensure you reach your health-related goals. So go ahead, go online, go to a certain store, go to a place where you can buy the trendiest outfit possible for your current size and wear it with pride.
After all, you’re a supermodel right now (in this very moment). Work it.
Time for another Rockstar Dieting Tip — one of many helpful ideas I incorporated into my life in order to take off more than 250 pounds of excess weight (and keep it off for over 10 years). You might be surprised to learn that this latest tip has nothing to do with food or exercise. But that doesn’t mean it’s any less valuable to your journey toward total and lasting health.
Rockstar Dieting Tip #2 — Start a “You” Scrapbook
When dieting, we tend to focus on what we’re giving up (ice cream, potato chips, etc.). So instead, why not create your very own “You” scrapbook — one that’s filled with positive cutouts and imagery (healthy body types that inspire you, clothes you want to wear after reaching your goal weight, pictures of social situations that motivate you to take off the excess pounds, etc.)?
I created my own You Book (see above — that’s the actual one) that was eventually chock full of visual clues as to why I was committed to finally taking off the excess weight once and for all. With a “You” scrapbook, you can focus on what you’re getting by losing weight, not what you’re giving it up.
This tip was so popular with my friend Joy Bauer that she actually shared it on the Today Show. It really is something you create yourself that becomes all about you and your reasons for taking off the unwanted pounds. Think of it as a vision board you can add to, look at and take with you anywhere. I used to pick my scrapbook up all the time when tempted to cheat on my eating plan. And nowadays? It serves as an amazing testament to what I went through to not only take off the excess weight, but to keep it off.
When you start your own You Book, I hope you’ll share some images with me. I’d love to see it and even share it here on Just Stop Eating So Much! or on the Just Stop! facebook page. It also just might help motivate others to start their own scrapbooks. (And the best part of this treat? No calories to speak of whatsoever!)
As you might have gathered from the #1 in this post’s title, Rockstar Dieting Tips is going to be an ongoing series here at Just Stop Eating So Much! Each writeup will contain a specific tip that will hopefully help you out on your journey to lasting health — whether you’re in the process of taking off excess weight or you’re at your goal weight and working to maintain it.
This first tip is one that might seem very obvious. But I know that it’s one that a lot of us (including myself) struggle to achieve on a daily basis. And yet it’s one of the most essential steps we must take in order to permanently shed — and keep off — those unwanted pounds.
Rockstar Dieting Tip #1 — Drink Lots of Water
This is one of my biggest diet “musts” — along with eating less and exercising more. (Duh, right?) But seriously… The more water, the better. We’ve got to rinse out those fat cells along with the other impurities we’ve built up through years of unhealthy eating. Also, more activity (like exercise) requires more water.
I know. I know. We’ve heard it all before. But fact is, if you’re not drinking enough water, you’re not giving your body (not to mention your metabolism) what it needs to purify your body, rinse our your fat cells and keep you hydrated before, during and after exercising.
According to Gina Shaw‘s writeup on WebMD, the director of performance nutrition at Athletes’ Performance, Amanda Carlson-Phillips, RD, reports “In my experience, most people are not aware of how much they’re drinking and are not drinking enough — many, as little as half of what they need. Water’s involved in every type of cellular process in your body, and when you’re dehydrated, they all run less efficiently — and that includes your metabolism. Think of it like your car: if you have enough oil and gas, it will run more efficiently. It’s the same with your body.”
If you have some Rockstar Dieting Tips that you’d like to share, feel free to contact me directly — or simply post the tip as a comment below. We’re all in this together… And together we can reach lasting health!
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I recently came across a writeup by Laura Bogart titled “I choose to be fat” and was instantly intrigued. Before reading it, I honestly believed the author might make a valid point about reasons to stay heavy — perhaps doing that rather than yo-yo dieting and/or continually gaining because of constantly going on (and then cheating on) a diet. But as I read Ms. Bogart’s writeup, I soon realized that no such arguments were contained in her post.
While I respect Ms. Bogart’s — and anyone’s — life choices, I can’t help but question the validity of not only this piece, but also the author’s true feelings. While she inventively compares herself to a “Fat girl Jason Bourne,” and shows an entertaining and highly original perspective on life, her argument that “Doctors have bullied me about my weight for years, but obesity has given me the armor I needed to survive.”
In the piece, Ms. Bogart writes, “I packed on the pounds as a neglected child whose father passed out when his rage was spent, whose mother was petrified to move, to wake him. I was a little girl whose dinners always went cold. So I enacted a kid’s version of nourishment, swallowing fistfuls of Cheese-Its and pulling the cheese off left-over pizza. I took that lead-bellied feeling of fullness for actual satisfaction. I binged because I was frenzied with need. If I didn’t sink my teeth into something — anything — I wouldn’t know I was alive.”
While I can totally relate to using an outer layer of blubber as a coping mechanism during my challenging childhood years, I might suggest that the writer now realize those painful years are behind her and that, in this moment, she is in control (not her abusive father).
And while Ms. Bogart opines that “I have fought against myself for so very long, against everything I’d internalized: everything my father told me I was, everything my mother told me I couldn’t do; everything the kids at school told me I looked like, everything my (supposed) care providers swore I should be. I’ve laid down my arms. I will simply be,” I would argue that actually your body is wearing down with all the excess weight that it’s bogged down by. And real control comes from getting healthy and feeling fantastic. And as someone who once weighed over 450 pounds and ran out of breath just from talking on the phone, I certainly know what I’m talking about.
I’m not suggesting that the writer — or anyone — isn’t perfect just as they are. But it’s through this kind of acceptance and declaration of perfection that we can then do ourselves the favor of taking off the dangerous, excess weight and getting healthy for ourselves and for our future (our abusive pasts be damned).
And please — don’t think I’m adversely judging the writer. In fact, I’m not judging her at all. But at 23 years old, she has an incredible opportunity to lose the weight before it starts affecting her health in more severe ways. At the end of the day, it’s not about choosing to be fat. It’s about choosing happiness, life and self worth. And that stuff — not to mention that kind of happiness — is never found in overeating.
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